September 24, 2023

If you’re something like me, you might have a giant record of stuff you’d love to do. Objectives, aspirations, goals, initiatives, hobbies.

And as you become old and extra conscious that you’ve got restricted time to do all the pieces, the record grows.

Right here is my present record, divided by class:


  • Begin my very own enterprise

  • Be an expert author

  • Create passive earnings streams

  • Discover distant, work from wherever alternatives

  • Begin a Youtube channel

  • Do a course in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)

  • Improve my technical expertise (search engine marketing, internet design, video modifying, web3, AI, no-code)

  • Yoga Trainer Coaching (300 hours!)


Be a proactive mum:

  • Be a gift mum or dad

  • Facilitate my youngsters to be taught as a lot as doable: faucet dancing, horse driving, ballet, swimming, jujitsu, gymnastics, capoeira, soccer, artwork

  • Learn and draw with my youngsters

  • Learn books on being a greater mum or dad

Well being:


  • Go tenting with my household

  • Get again into stand-up paddle and wake-boarding

  • Begin enjoying tennis once more

  • Be taught silk (I nonetheless haven’t let go of my need to be an aerial artist lol)

  • Run a half marathon

  • Return to dancing salsa, tango and up to date

  • Journey Asia, Africa and South America

They are saying that as you become old, your need to do issues wanes. Not fairly true for me. Do you are feeling the identical?

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Clearly, I can’t do all the pieces. Our time is proscribed, the mum fatigue is actual, and making an attempt to do all the pieces means overwhelm and never doing something correctly.

However how do I select?

“The distinction between profitable folks and actually profitable folks is that basically profitable folks say no to virtually all the pieces.” – Warren Buffett

There’s a technique (yaay!). It’s Warren Buffett’s 25/5 technique. It’s actually well-known, although fictitious. However nonetheless a technique to work with!

In a nutshell that is it:

  • Step 1. Checklist your prime 25 (or extra!) life objectives, skilled objectives or aspirations – your bucket record mainly. All the things you need to your life that’s necessary for you.

  • Step 2. Circle the 5 most necessary objectives which might be the closest to your soul. These are your highest priorities to concentrate on.

  • Step 3. Cross off the opposite 20 objectives you might have listed and put them away in a “avoid-at-all-costs” record. Sure, “avoid-at-all-costs” record. I guess you’ve by no means made a kind of earlier than!

Placing apart objectives necessary to you may give you FOMO. Our temper performs a job too. How are we meant to disregard our ‘avoid-at-all-costs’ record when our temper gravitates in direction of one thing on that record?

I suppose we now have to decide on our prime 5 objectives rigorously. Then take the choice to concentrate on solely these and absolutely decide to them. And begin taking pleasure in the truth that we are literally on monitor to realize a few of our most necessary objectives.

Level to ponder: The ‘be a proactive mum’ record is a non-negotiable for me; and that already has 4 issues on it. Does this imply I have to compromise on this record?

I’m undecided. This train is less complicated mentioned than finished.

My most necessary takeaway from this technique is that the 25/5 train is educating us to select to say no to all the pieces that doesn’t transfer us in direction of reaching what’s necessary to us. It compels us to remove and decrease distractions in order that we will truly obtain one thing, relatively than attempt to obtain one thing.

“Individuals suppose focus means saying sure to the stuff you’ve bought to concentrate on. However that’s not what it means in any respect. It means saying no to the hundred different good concepts that there are. You must decide rigorously.” – Steve Jobs

I actually have no idea how to do that in relation to all of the issues I need to be taught and obtain. Consequently, I find yourself having a complete bunch of half-baked initiatives occurring always.

I actually need this to vary, for which I would like a system. I’m going to belief this 25/5 train, and begin with it.

I’ll say although that I’ve turn out to be excellent at saying no to social invites, with no FOMO and full JOMO 🙂 Consequently, I solely spend time with a handful of individuals near me who enrich my life. So a lot better for my time, thoughts and soul.

I can’t imagine we’re virtually in Could. I would like to maneuver quick on my finalizing my focus record so I can transfer the needle on a few of objectives by the top of the yr.

What are you going to concentrate on for the remainder of the yr? Inform me within the feedback or hit reply! I’d like to know.

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Abha x

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